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situationódraw forth what is waiting to be born.
Sorting Out Your
of you ever feel overwhelmed by the many stresses of your life? There are so
many things that can stress us out, such as people who have hurt our
feelings, goals that
we have yet to achieve or finding the time to clean our house. These are just a few
examples, the list can go on and on.
There is something very
simple that can help ease the stress in your life. Youíve
probably heard of it before, yet perhaps havenít taken the time to
give it a try. Iíve
started doing it myself and I find that Iím really enjoying it very
much. Itís called
Journaling is writing down your thoughts, feelings or
memories in whatever type of writing tablet you choose.
Itís best to choose a
journal that you feel most comfortable with. One that you may even
find attractive. This will inspire you to use it more often so that
it does not just sit and collect dust. For me, it is a simple
medium-sized spiral notebook with pastel colored pages. I even
bought a pretty book marker to help me find where I left off. Some
people may prefer to use a hard covered book with blank white
pages. Some may even keep a journal on the computer or desk.
There are many
different type of journals a person might want to keep. You can
keep as many types of journals as you want. Iíd like to tell you
about a few. Those would be:
The Log Journal
The Cathartic Journal
The Log-Type Journal
would be used for the purpose of helping one to achieve their
goals. Some examples of goals a person might want to achieve are
achieve a healthier weight, getting in shape, beginning a new career, going back
to school, learning or mastering a new skill.
Normally, in a log journal, you would first state your goal.
Then you would list the
reasons why you want to reach it. Next, you would write down your
plan to achieve the
goal. Lastly, you would write in the book daily or every other day
the steps you have
been taking to move closer to your goal until you reach your goal.
Itís so much easier to
reach a goal when you have a plan set out on paper. You can take
baby steps toward your goal each day without feeling overwhelmed.
It can give you a great sense of
accomplishment with every step you take.
The Healing Journal
is used for the person who wants to heal themselves emotionally,
physically and/or spiritually. Some people might use it because of
a history of physical,
emotional or sexual abuse by a person they would normally trust.
Others might use it
because of a physical illness they have. In order for it to work,
you have to believe that
your mind can affect your physical and mental well-being, called the
connection. This is something I strongly believe in, because it has
a large role in why I am still alive with HIV after being
diagnosed 17 years ago. In this
type of journal, you can write about your doubts and your fears.
Also, you may write
about things you are doing to help yourself in your healing
pursuits. I have found that
some people donít want to hear about your aches and pains. That you
can be considered
a toxic person when you do that. The beauty of this type of
journal, is that it can be your friend. It is nonjudgmental. It
can help you feel better and as you write, somehow,
magically, you can often come up with the answers you need in order
to heal yourself.
Healing does not always mean cure, but it can mean improvement.
The Cathartic Journal
can be used for the purpose to help vent our frustrations. Many of us can get
frustrated from time to time to the point where we would like to
shout, yell or stomp our feet. Putting your
feelings down on paper gives you the opportunity to think things
through, calm down, and put everything in its proper perspective.
The Unsent Letter
is very similar to the Cathartic Journal in that it allows you to
freely express your emotions without the fear of another person
seeing it. You would be
writing a letter in this case, that you donít intend to send. For
example, one woman I
know wrote a letter to her late father. She had never told him that
she loved him.
Because of that, she harbored guilty feelings. She decided to write
an unsent letter telling him why she loved him. She later had a
dream that her father was smiling at her, with a knowing look that
he was loved by her. She no longer felt guilty. You can also write
an unsent letter to someone you are angry with or hurt by that you
donít feel comfortable confronting. This way, it can give you a
sense of relief and hopefully some closure.
In conclusion, journals
are a way to help us take control of our lives.
we can put things in perspective, while helping us to achieve
our goals, grow as people and vent our frustrations. We
can learn so much about ourselves through journal writing. They
are also fun to look back on to see how much weíve changed.
So if you are so inclined, start a journal for yourself to make
this world an easier place to live in.