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I'll be happy and
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get... married, have a
baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the
kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are.
we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy
and contented when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves
that our life will be complete when our spouse gets
his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a
nice vacation or when we retire, when we...
The truth is there's
no better time to be happy and contented than right now. If not now, when? Your life will
always be filled with challenges.
It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy
and contented anyway. Happiness and feeling contented is
the way. So, treasure every moment that you have
and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough
to spend your time with... and remember that time
waits for no one.
Everybody wants to be happy and avoid suffering. We all want lasting
happiness and freedom from suffering and distress. Ask: What really brings
What You Plant Is What You Get!
Remember the Kindness of Others and Notice the
Advantages of Cherishing Others
The Four Truths of the Noble Ones
So, stop waiting ...
your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you get a divorce.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until you die.
There is no better time than right now to be happy
and contented! Happiness and contentment is a journey, not a destination. So
like you don't need money,
like you've never been
hurt, and, dance
like no one's watching.
order to create a new future...
need to leave the feelings and choices
of the past behind!
Kiss the Earth
By Thich Nhat Hanh
touch peace every moment.
Walk and touch happiness every moment.
Each step brings a fresh breeze.
Each step makes a flower bloom.
Kiss the Earth with your feet.
Bring the Earth your love and happiness.
The Earth will be safe
when we feel safe in ourselves.
Adapted from Thich Nhat Hanh: Buddhism in Action, by Maura D. Shaw (Skylight
Paths, 2004). Shared by my friend Michelle.
Here are a few easy rules to remember and live by.
Wisdom by Rick
1. Keep in touch with
the Child in U!
2. Go to bed thinking only happy thoughts.
3. Wake up remembering those happy thoughts!
4. Say NO to projects that won't fit into your time schedule or that will
compromise your mental health.
5. Delegate tasks to capable others.
6. Simplify and unclutter your life.
7. Less is More; often if one's not enough, 2R often 2many.)
8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't
lump the hard things all together.
10. Take one day at a time.
11. If something arises over which U have no control; let it go: remember UR
not the General Manger of the universe!
12. Have backups; an extra car key in UR wallet, an extra house key buried in
the garden, extra stamps, etc.
13. Enjoy the kid in you!
14. Get enough exercise.
15. Junk the junk food; eat less!
16. Get organized.
17. Everyday, find time to be alone.
The practical wisdom
that is shared above is taken
from e-mails that were sent to me. Original author unknown.
Make Your Mind an Ocean:
Aspects of Buddhist Psychology for ideas about
What really brings me
lasting happiness and contentment? Also visit the
A truly happy person is one who
can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Well-being is attained by little
little, and nevertheless it is
little thing itself.
Zeno of Citium
(c.335-c.263 B.C.) Greek philosopher
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Here are some
is not having what you want, but wanting what you have. Hyman Judith
Schachtel (1907 - 1990)
To see a World in a
Grain of Sand And a Heaven in a Wild Flower Hold Infinity in the palm of
your hand And Eternity in an hour...William Blake (1757 -1827) English poet
Let no one ever
come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of
God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your
smile. Mother Teresa (1910 - 1997).
I encourage you to extend this same
consideration towards yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed and yucky! Bob
When one door of
happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door
that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. Helen Keller (1880
- 1968) American writer and lecturer.
Cultivate more joy
by arranging your life so that more joy will be likely. Georgia Witkin (b.
1943) American professor of psychiatry.
pertaining to enthusiasm, no man is sane who does not know how to be insane on
proper occasions. Henry Ward Beecher (1813 - 1887) American clergyman,
editor, and writer
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882) American essayist and poet
It is not easy to
find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
Agnes Repplier (1855 - 1950). American broadcaster and writer.
The secret of
happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one has to do.
James M. Barrie (1860 - 1937) Scottish novelist and dramatist.
What a wonderful
life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner. Colette (1873 - 1954)
Joyful Child: A Sourcebook of Activities and Ideas for Releasing Children's
Natural Joy, By Peggy
Jenkins, Ph.D., Aslan Publishing,
This book is not just for the children
in your life. It is also for you!
As you learn to guide your children's
discovery of joy your awareness will expand and you will grow more in touch with
your own inner joy. It is both a source and a
resource book. Between its
covers is a wealth of ideas and activities. In
addition it is liberally sprinkled with quotations and references to lead you to
a wide variety of excellent resources.
on his site:
When Self-Improvement Gives Way
Welcome relief for those who have
labored on self-improvement.
Illuminating insights on quitting the
fixing game, taking back your power, and
getting on with the life you were born
to live . Touching, humorous, and
acclaimed as "the Bible for Self-Help
survivors." This book will surely help
you to take your power back and remember
that what you are seeking already lives
within you, as you.
Bob's review: This book is really FUN!
It plants numerous nuggets of
transformative thinking. I love the:
Attitude Of Gratitude, Doors To The
Light, I'm Off To Be The Wizard, Follow
Your Spirit...well, really all of them!
The book is FUN to just open any section
and start reading! For a mind-stretching
Are You As Happy
As Your Dog?
Why Your Life
What You Can Do About It)
Frolic in these